I (43f) and my husband (44m) have lived in a red state (US) for the past 15 years and in a small town/ city where many are followers of that red hat way of thinking. Recently people are starting to get emboldened to do more negative things in the south and women's Healthcare is partially illegal. It's getting dangerous in this country and I spoke of having an exit plan in case we need to get out. We are currently in debt to credit cards because of the poor economy and it's something we are fighting to get rid of. We just had a big fight over my wanting to move as soon as we can to get out of here to safety because as a woman, even a white woman, it is pretty damn scary, but he doesn't get it. He's a white guy. He's zoned out most of the news and only watches certain videos to get tid bits here and there. He wants to wait to move until we have a lot more money and to do that we have to wait to inherit it from a family member when they pass. Which could be years from now. He wants to move to this other country because it's much better, and I agree, but that was our plan before this all started happening. If you're paying attention there are lots of whistle blowers telling us to get out of the US if we can. People that are any color but white, naturalized Americans, and women who are POC and white. I have 2 little girls. One turns 4 very soon and her big sister is 6 years old. It's getting dangerous. I'm not a person who looks for conspiracy theories. This is avaliable information for anyone just looking at independent news. Our fight ended with him yelling at me because I told him that if it got bad, I will take my girls and get out. Whether he likes it or not. "It's feels like you don't want to protect us." He said he does. Circumstances have to be different. "So you'll only protect us under certain circumstances?" He got more angry and said I twisted his words but those were HIS words. We can do it. We can get out to safety. We can even get help to get out. But he refuses to leave that way because of the way we moved here to this area. I get that, but thisnt about moving to a different place just because the neighbors are nicer and the pay is better. This is about getting our family to safety. AITAH for telling my husband I will take our girls to safety no matter what?

Side not: When we moved here I was disabled, in a wheelchair chair, and we had to file bankruptcy on medical bills and our house was foreclosed on illegally during the 2008-09 housing sump. We had nothing when we moved here. I was disabled for 5 years and had to relearn to walk again. This time I'd be able to work where ever we went.