Overall, other than a couple minutes of saying hi to the baby each day, he seems generally uninterested in her. He never wants to hold her, and when he does he stays on his phone the entire time instead of engaging with her like I do when she’s awake. Whenever I ask if he can take her, he treats it like it’s a chore or something he’s doing “for me”. I feel bad if I ever have to ask so I can take a shower or catch up on chores that were difficult to accomplish that day while tending to the baby. He says when he comes home from work he doesn’t want to have to do anything - including the obligation of holding her. A couple weekends ago when my husband got back from a guys trip that I encouraged him to go on so he could go have some fun; after I listened for a couple hours all about his trip, I told him I was starting to get a headache and asked him to hold our baby so I could eat something for the first time that day. About 10 minutes later he asked if I was almost done eating because he was “tired and didn’t feel like holding her”. Hearing this after watching her by myself all weekend was hard to hear, so i told him I wished I could just have a break sometimes because I hold her 24 hours of the day 7 days a week. He responded by saying “well you’re the mom that’s kind of how it works”. I have honestly been very surprised this has been his mentality. It was his idea for me to drop out of college and for us to pursue parenthood. And when I was pregnant, he seemed so excited about becoming a dad and would tell me all the time he couldn’t wait to hold her and that as soon as he got home from work he would want to grab her from me and get all the baby cuddles. He would even go over to his siblings houses (who had babies of their own a few months before us) and volunteer to hold his nieces and nephews for hours while he hung out with his siblings. Granted, he works a job that is mentally draining for him while I am privileged enough to be able to stay home with our baby, but I still can’t help but feel disappointed in what I’ve seen of him as a father.