My husband (40M) snores every single night, and it’s loud. I’ve tried earplugs, white noise, different sleeping positions, but the only way I get any rest is by gently nudging him or kicking the bed to stop the snoring.

This one morning, after I nudged him again, he asked, “Why did you push me?” (Which, yes, obviously, I did.) I was tired and snapped a little, saying, “Why can’t you just breathe quietly like a normal person?” I know it wasn’t the nicest thing to say, but I was running on little sleep and it just came out.

He got upset and called me “toxic” and said I “insulted” him. I then told him, “Why should I tolerate it when it’s not my problem to begin with?” And he said that was my “bad attitude.”

The thing is, his snoring didn’t used to be this bad. In the earlier years of our marriage, he wasn’t overweight and his snoring wasn’t nearly as loud. It’s gotten worse over time, and it’s seriously affecting my sleep. I’ve suggested he see a doctor about it, but he’s brushed it off.

I don’t want to sleep separately, but I also don’t want to keep losing sleep and feeling like a zombie.

So, AITAH for snapping and telling him to “breathe quietly”?