My husband and I have been going through allot, l've suggested NPD evaluations because nothing makes sense. I've been concerned about that but have had a blurry mind because this just be the way he's been and always been. Argument was I had a few things that I wanted to bring up to my therapist. Things like secretly putting a camera in our restroom that our daughters use and son under 6. He set it up thinking l'd do things with the VR game because he suggested watching VR P**** and I got offended. Camera was taken out after and he didn't care that I always been against recordings and things like that. He's joked about putting secret ones around the house to catch something that pleasures him, and I always tells him that's a big no from me and how I feel. When I mention our daughters uses it and how I felt about it. He accused me of terrible thought and if I wanted him to off himself only concerning my concerns as he wanted to see our children when that wasn't the concern. (I've been worried about possible NPD because his mom has it and he's from an enmeshed family dynamic. He acts the same. Says the same. Withdrew from our childrens Easter because I was acting withdrawn due to another argument 2 days before because I was told I made all of my emotions in my own head to argue when he's been begging me to tell him if I'm upset (I wasn't) when I finally give reassurance and explain I wasn't again but now the comment even if I was I wasn't gonna lie and not tell him so it didn't matter) now that I'm concerned I'm a lier and he knew I was mad the whole time, this lead to therapy talk with all this today.

I set this relating to NPD because of my concerns for him, they came from the NPD MIL and how I get poor treatment when I want to stand up for myself but get love when I don't. They're gone so any concerns now make me "crazy". The normalization of family calling you names and lying about you, threatening to not come to grandchildren's birthday because the invite he sent wasn't inviting but him not saying he sent it from my phone.