I (F17) and my boyfriend M(M18) got in trouble for having safe sex. His sister(F16) heard us talking about it on the phone and told his mom(F43) who proceeded to tell my mom(F44). After hearing the news she and my dad(M41) put me on lock down. Threatening disownment, telling my overly Christian grandparents why I’m in trouble, actually took away phone, car, dream college(which I got instate tuition for despite it being out of state), track practice, prom,and boyfriend. My dad has been against him from the start and said I’ve been lying about it. I never felt comfortable with telling my parents about my sex life or even thought they should know about my dating life and I told after about a week when I realized how serious this was because I knew what would happen. They aren’t against me having sex but they were with this guy despite the fact they never sat down to have a conversation with him and outright refused to. They never asked if it was safe or consensual (even though it was and we both did our part with condoms, pulling out, and tracking my discharge and fertile window and checking if we were both comfortable)only that I fucked up my life and that they think I’m pregnant despite being on my period. My dad chucked a full soda at me which caused me to hyperventilate and panic. He told me to stop being a baby that it was only a soda bottle. I was sent to my room no dinner and tried to get some sleep.

Next day my dad called me a psychopath and stupidest in the family. He kept saying he was going to beat up M, rip his jaw off, that he was trash and was going to dilute the bloodline. I kept telling him everything was safe and I was smarter than that to have unprotected sex. He then explained safe sex to me like I was mentally challenged. When I talked to M at school and found out that things were not as bad for him, he had no car and that was it. He said that his dad was able to calm down his mom and actually is sympathetic for him.

This morning my dad kept telling me to take off this necklace that had a ring that M got me for Christmas or he was going to rip it off my neck. Mom told me that I’ve destroyed her’s as well as my dad’s trust. I told her why haven’t you left dad yet, he’s been cheating on you for years. She already knows I know this and she is also aware of his infidelity but excused it and said that I should be ashamed for saying that. Today they are talking about selling my car because they took away my job so I can’t afford car insurance.

TLDR; in trouble for having safe sex, mom said I broke her trust, I told her she should leave dad because he won’t stop cheating on her

Edit: I turn 18 in less than 2 weeks of posting this. The car is in my parent’s name and my job was part of our family business. I graduate in less than 4