I have always been the “listener” in my family, especially for my mom. For years, she’s treated me like her personal therapist—venting about my dad, her job, her friends, money, everything. It’s been like this since I was around 14 (27 now). I used to think it was normal, but I’ve started to realize how emotionally draining it is.

She calls me almost every day, often late at night, and just rants. If I try to talk about my own stuff, she either changes the subject or says I’m being selfish. I’ve gently suggested therapy before, but she always brushes it off with “I just need someone to listen, not some stranger who doesn’t care.” or "its not for me" etc

Last week I hit a wall. I was going through some really really bad personal stuff and told her I didn’t have the energy to talk, .She didnt ask what was wrong, she didnt leave me alone instaed, she blew up, said I was cold, ungrateful, and “just like my father.” I finally snapped and said, “I’m not your therapist, I’m your daughter. You should talk to a professional because I can’t keep doing this.”

Since then, my siblings have gone nuclear. My older brother told me I was “emotionally abandoning” her and that “I’m lucky she even wants to talk to me.” My younger sister blocked me entirely and sent a message to our family group chat saying I was a “selfish narcissist who hurt the one person who always supported me.”

Now everyone’s basically cut me off except my dad, who quietly told me he gets it but doesn’t want to get involved. I’m honestly heartbroken. I feel guilty and like im all alone, but also like I finally did something for my own sanity....