Edit to add: when I lived with my mom I paid for my share of rent, my food and all of my expenses. Hi all - I live in NYC and it is expensive. Lived with my mom until last year in a rough neighborhood and moved to a much safer area. I don't make a ton of money, it's about 57k, my rent is stabilized. I was going to try to switch jobs but I've had health issues recently so I need to stick it out to hopefully get better due to insurance. Prices have gone up recently, I had to pay out of pocket for a few doctors but I'm still trying to enjoy things here and there like taking myself out to a Broadway show (waited 3 hours in rush line last week to get a discounted ticket), never go out to eat to treat myself. I was talking to my mom about my bills and that a soup I purchased was $12 and she said 'oh man, you can't go to any new Broadway shows now!' And 'oh wow, if you keep spending $12 on soup you won't have any money left!' And laughed over the phone. I didn't say anything but keep thinking you know it would nice if she would tell me to take myself to brunch or lunch and she'd pay for it, it would likely about $25 for whatever meal I'd choose or tell me my next bway show is covered my her (I always get rush tickets). The thing is, she has money. I've deposited some of the cash that she had at home and it is not a small sum. Every 2 months she takes out about $700 cash because she doesn't like it bring in a bank. Her expenses are very small and she lives in a very inexpensive apartment. She told me last month her expenses came out to $500 for all bills and how that was so much for her (it isn't!). I've hinted to her that I wanted to go get waffles at a brunch spot or some delicious pasta for lunch but she never offered to treat me, even once. I brought up today that after her comments about how much my expenses are that it would be nice if she could offer to treat me to something but she flipped out on me and said I was not welcome to come over and I should be ashamed of myself for asking. I am in my 30's so I understand maybe I am in the wrong here but it would be nice to get treated sometimes. With my health problems in the last 6 months I asked her to maybe pay 1/2 for my 4 Uber rides, total around $100, she agreed and did so that was nice. She does give me some cooked food after I visit her and in return I have cleaned her apartment a few times (she has mobility issues but refuses to get a cleaning person that will be covered by Medicare). I have helped in going to buy her groceries when she was feeling unwell last month, went to refill her metrocard at the train station, buy her necessities she may need (she pays me back), talk to her management office regarding repairs bc there is a language barrier. I don't have a partner and sometimes I feel like no one cares about me. It would be nice to get treated by a parent in a small way. I've never asked her for money throughout my life. She did give me $100 in the summer for my bday and $100 for Christmas though. I recently got her flowers and a gift for her birthday and also flowers for Int'l women's day because it's a big holiday in Eastern Europe where were originally from. So, AITA for telling my mom it would be nice if she treated me sometimes? I might be too emotional now due to my health issues. Thanks for reading!