Sooo... I’m 27F, just got engaged a few months ago. Wedding planning been mostly chill, but of course my fam had to come in hot with the mess.

Backstory: my pops passed when I was 16. That man was everything to me. We were real close, and growing up I always said he’d be the one to walk me down the aisle. Obviously that ain’t happening. But I already made peace with that. I planned to either walk alone or have my uncle (my dad’s brother) do it, basically simple.

Enter: my mom’s fiancé. Let’s call him Rick. She been with Rick for like 3 years. He’s… aiight. Bit of a corny dude, always tryna force vibes with me. Like calling me “kiddo” and buying me Yankee socks for Christmas even though I told him I’m a Mets girl. Whatever, I smile, keep it cute, move on.

Anyway, we’re at dinner the other week and my mom goes, outta NOWHERE, “You know Rick would be honored to walk you down the aisle.” I legit chuckled. Not on some disrespectful shit, just like… huh??

I said, “Nah, I already got that figured out.” You’d think I smacked her across the table. The way she looked at me? Like I ruined her lil Hallmark movie moment. And then Rick hits me with, “I just assumed. I mean, I’m gonna be your stepdad.”

I’m like… stepdad where?

I told him real calm: “Look, I respect that you and my mom are building your thing, but this ain’t your lane. You didn’t raise me. You didn’t even know my dad. This ain’t personal, it’s just not your role.”

This man got in his feelings fast. Said I was “pushing him away” and “making him feel like an outsider.” My mom jumped in like, “He’s the only father figure you’ve had in years. Why would you exclude him like that?”

I said, “Just cause you chose him doesn’t mean I gotta rewrite my whole life story for y’all’s comfort.”

Now she’s straight up not talking to me. Hasn’t called, hasn’t texted. She told my aunt I “embarrassed Rick” and made her look like a bad mom in front of her man.

So now I’m sitting here like… AITAH for setting that boundary? Or should I have just let corny ass Rick walk me to keep the peace?