I’m 25F, no kids, working in tech, making good money, traveling, dating, living my life the way I want. My older sister is 32F, married with three kids under 8. She’s a full-time stay-at-home mom and has basically made that her entire identity.

Every time we talk, it’s all about how exhausted she is or how moms don’t get enough appreciation. Like constantly. And every time I mention anything I’m doing, she makes a snide remark about how selfish or “easy” my life must be.

We had a family dinner last week and I was showing some photos from my solo trip to Spain. She made a sarcastic comment about how nice it must be to just travel around while she’s raising the next generation. It wasn’t the first time, and honestly, I snapped.

I told her nobody forced her to have three kids before 30. That she made her choices, and just because she decided to be a full-time mom doesn’t mean the world owes her anything. I said she needs to stop expecting praise just for doing something millions of people do every day.

She went silent and left early with her husband. Now the rest of the family is saying I was too harsh and could’ve handled it better, which, okay, maybe I could have. I’m just tired of her constantly looking down on me like my life doesn’t matter because it doesn’t involve diapers and daycare runs. I’m sick of moms acting like their decision to have kids makes them morally superior. You chose that life. Stop punishing other people for it.

She’s been guilt-tripping and judging me for years. Maybe we’re both wrong. I don’t even know anymore. AITAH?