I went on a few dates with this girl I matched with. Things were going well until the subject of sex came up. Turns out she's asexual and was hoping I'd be ok with a nonsexual relationship after we'd had a few dates and gotten to know each other.

No offense to asexual folks who might be reading this, but that preference is completely incompatible with my own. Sex is important to me and I cannot be romantic with someone I'm not also sexually intimate with and who doesn't actively want that sexual intimacy like I do.

So I let her know that I'd rather we not continue seeing each other as we were not going to work out long term with our differences. She got very upset and tried to convince me to give it time to "get used to it." I refused. I know at this point I hadn't done anything to be an asshole.

The thing that I'm iffy on whether I was out of line is the fact that before I stopped responding I told her she needed to put her asexual preference in her app bios because misleading men who assume a relationship eventually results in sex only to "bait and switch" them is dishonest and not something a good partner would do to someone they claim to care about. I also referred to what she's doing as a form of "emotional blackmail" though that might be misusing the term. I told her she can't be surprised if men keep turning her down when she starts things off with a "white lie" and that it's hard to feel sympathy for someone who deceives and wastes the time of others like this.

I feel I have been a bit too harsh and I'm wanting some outside perspective because I feel bad for that last comment even if I feel it is somewhat justified.