I (25F) have been a constant target of my aunt and some family members (from my mother’s side of the family) to keep bullying me. It started when i was just a kid, i was not very pretty, or thin or beautiful like my mother although i was academically pretty good. One of my masi and my mama, have constantly pointed my flaws out, saying i am ugly to my face when i was just 10yold, or making jokes on me and expecting me to laugh along when it was straight up disrespectful towards me. My mum is a very loving woman, she never says anything to upset anyone but i really wanted her to speak up for at least my sake. It never happened so i just distant myself from these relatives. Fast forward, last week I went to my cousin’s housewarming and her mother is also one my masis had invited every relative to the program. Ofc this mama and that masi were also there, and i tried to be nice to them because i thought now that i haven’t seen them for years they would be a little bit empathetic, to my surprise they were even more rude and mean, and kept saying things that would hurt me. How my face has acne, and how pretty my mother is and why i don’t look like her ( even though i had a glow up and look quite pretty now) or how fat or tanned i look(i workout and not at all fat or tanned either) so i kept hearing them saying stuff like these and some more, I snapped by the end of the day and said that i do not really remember asking anyone’s opinion and i would appreciate that i would be respected otherwise i would not respect back either. And oh my god they were so hurt and that masi cried and what not, i did not budge and i kept making remarks where i was confidently asking to be respected and nothing more, they taunted me over that and complained to my parents, now my mum got pretty upset about it but she didn’t really take any sides which is okay because i know how much she loves everyone, but that doesn’t mean i will tolerate it as well. The only thing that kept repeating in my head was, it you want to speak things like that to me, don’t act like a victim if i start speaking too. Now i am officially a “bad person“ of my mom’s side of the family and tbh i felt quite good standing up for myself but again was it really worth it? I don’t really want my mum to feel upset.