📝 AITAH for texting a girl an apology text.

By AControversialHuman • Score: 2 • April 18, 2025 8:31 PM


For context, I am 19, she is 18 now. In highschool (we were 16) we talked for a couple months, kissed ect. I made a mistake and we went our seperate ways, but the issue is I couldn’t let her go, I messaged her, emailed, and called on different numbers when she blocked me and overall just harassed her. She told me multiple times to stop talking to her and she wanted nothing to do with me. Today I do feel bad for doing that, genuinley. Moving on, I went to therapy to help with this issue, it still did not do much. I think about her sometimes but never act on it, as to not harass her. Except yesterday. Yesterday after a year+ with no contact, I saw a post of hers and caved. I requested to follow her on instagram. She proceeded to block me. I cannot tell you how bad I feel. Seriously I do. But this is where my question comes into play, I messaged her afterwards on my old phone to say sorry, this is my text I sent.

“Hey her name, it’s my name. I know I’m the last person you want to hear from, and I get that. I just wanted to seriously apologize for following you on Instagram, it’s been over a year since I contacted you, and following you just wasn’t fair to your boundaries, especially after all this time. I was js wondering how you were doing, but I realize now that wasn’t my place. I won’t contact you again, and I’m deleting your number after this. No need to reply. Just wanted to own my mistake and wish you well. Take care”

I sent this text with the intention of letting her know I genuinley felt terrible doing what I did. Looking back, this wasn’t the right move. She texted me immediately saying this.

“U crazy bitch leave me alone my uncle is a police officer I will report u”

I have not responded, and won’t. Before you all jump on me, yes, I get it. I’m a fucking weirdo and a stalker, I am doing the things i’m supposed to, I have a job, I have talked to other girls, I am in therapy 2 days a week, I am on new medication ect. I seriously am trying to stop. I don’t know why I can’t and I hate myself every day for it. I have tried everything, why won’t I stop. Most people in this subreddit always leave out the bad side of the story where they hide what they did, yet I told you everything. So I expect the truth in replies. But this is where my question is.

AITAH for sending the apology text to her?

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