I (18f) was friends with R (17f) until 2 months ago. We were close friends for 4-5 years, so we know each other’s personality and how each other reacts to situations.

We used to be in a group of 4, but had a falling out with the other 2 due to multiple conflicts. So it was just me and her against all odds. We have always been in different schools so ‘being in different schools’ was never an issue.

Moving on to the actual issue, this happened on my 18th birthday. We were supposed to eat dinner together with some of my friends, all whom I have asked to eat dinner together 2-3 weeks prior to my actual birthday to give them time to plan. And on the day itself, R suddenly told me she was not able to meet as she may need to do over time. I am a really hot tempered person btw, sprouted out a lot of vulgarities and said “if you do not come, I will unfriend you” which is a joke I have said multiple times. R took it seriously and proceeded on to bringing my mother as well as another friend whom I had a falling out with into the situation. It felt like a personal attack and I cried really badly in the subway/metro. R proclaimed that a royalty from a neighbouring country was coming to her work place and she was only informed last minute. However, from my understanding, when high profile people are coming to an area, staff are informed at least a few weeks prior to ensure the safety of the royalty. So that felt like a lie?

After cooling down for awhile, I texted R my pov about the situation, however R shared my personal message to a platform where <50 of her friends are able to see my message. R’s friends also slandered me by insulting for my looks/size ( I am not skinny but don’t think I am fat fat either ). R did not try to stop her friends but continued spreading false accusations about me such as me calling her friends a slut, which I did not as I have only said I do not like their vibe. As arguing would not solve the issues, I decided to enjoy the last couple of hours with my other friends before replying R again.

When I sent my final messages to R, R was very adamant about not continuing our friendship although I apologised multiple times for the parts I felt I was wrong, which was my blast of vulgarities at the start. So things ended off there, or so I thought.

A week ago, I saw R again in public. We looked at each other and said no words. I left everything as it is, while R proceeds to text in her social platform about my looks, comparing me to a haunted spiritual being that is relatively creepy as I have thick, somewhat voluminous black hair. And I was just shakened with fear, I currently do not know if I was the asshole or not. So aitah?