I (28F) and he (35M) know each other since 2 years. 5 months into knowing each other we became good friends and would talk almost everyday and meet frequently even when we are based in different cities. He fell in love with me 1 year into knowing each other but did not tell me. 5 months later I started developing feelings for him as well and loving him and told him that when I was tipsy. He admitted that he has loved me for a good 6 months but didn’t tell me. (He thought I could find someone closer to my age or something) The next two months were amazing. We would show each other our love but at this point we had not made out with each other being in different cities. We went on a trip together after this and ended up making out for the first time and spent all the days inseparable. But suddenly this girl who he had talked to 2 years ago decided to move to his city and he told me that he considering initiating a relationship with her as she would be a better fit in his family. He said he does not love her at this point, he deeply cares about me but I deserve someone much better than him (background : People never consider us as a couple when we are together because conventionally I am good looking and he thinks he is downright ugly. But I do not feel like that about him, I actually find him very very attractive and he always has my attention when I am with him in a room full of conventionally good looking men, he knows that as well. I do keep receiving attention from other guys and I am not sure if that is what makes him insecure.) We still kept on meeting and spending time after this.

Now the other lady moved to his city from a different country for work 2 days ago and he told me he is going to pick her up at the airport to help get settled in her new place. He has been making time for me as well and we just had a virtual date yesterday. He said he hasn’t decided if he wants to be with her yet but that I should focus on my career and go with the flow and that he always has my back.

I have been having thoughts of asking him to stop talking to her and make it work with me, but I feel a little lost, confused and hurt about what is happening. I also agree that the other lady will be a good fit in his family and their religious construct and that he deserves overall peace. Any advice ?