Ok, so here's the background: when my husband (38m) and I (34f) were university students we were really good friends with another couple. After university we moved to another city while they stayed but we still met at least every two months and also went on holidays together. We helped them build their house and helped them move, etc. basically we were always there for them. They both make a good salary but we noticed a couple years ago that all they talked about was how much the things cost that they buy - bikes , cars, furniture etc. When they had their second child four years ago they asked me to be the godmother and I was honored but didn't ask what this actually entailed - my mistake. Anyway, I had a great connection to their firstborn so I thought being godmother of the second one would be a great idea. What happened in those four years now that I have been the godmother is that I send presents for Christmas and birthdays as well as contribute to a savings plan for my godchild, but the friendship to the parents is cooling more and more off . We only see them a few times per year, they rarely check in on us, we have not received any gifts from them for the son we had meanwhile and I also never got anything like a picture painted by my godchild or some art made by him to recognize me being his godmother. In short : I just feel like I'm giving gifts and money but there is no real connection to the parents or the child anymore. Since the relationship to the parents is also not the same anymore it also feels weird to address this issue. I'm not even sure I want to be friends with them anymore. Would I be the AH if I'd stopped reaching out to them for a couple of months to see if they make an effort to keep up our friendship? I really feel like they just stay in contact for presents and money :/