Hey everyone, I guess this is a common problem that a lot of relationships face. I (23, F) and my boyfriend (26, M) have been together since I was 18. We almost never fight and have learned to communicate with eachother amazingly. I really love him and a year ago moved in with him and it has been the best. He was my first real boyfriend and as well my first sexual relationship. I have had sex before him but due to vaginism it was never enjoyable. My bf was always very patient and helped me through tough times with my condition. Now here‘s the thing. We don‘t have alot of sex. Which is okay to not have a lot of sex. But its mostly me that initiates and most of the time we dont do it cause we are tired or whatever. Also he‘s not really good at going down on me, I am pretty sure it‘s grossing him out. To me it almost seems like he is done with exploring new things and all that, because he has had many girls before me and done all the crazy stuff already. He had his fair share in experience. I on the other hand have never had those experiences due to my condition. And now, that I have finally worked through it, I want to have those experiences. And I truly want them with him, but lately I catch myself thinking about other men that I‘ve met or that have flirted with me. I fantasize about them and sometimes even when I am intimate with my boyfriend. This has been going on for a few months, sometimes more, sometimes less. I have talked to him about all of this (except the me thinking about other men part) and it is better when I talk to him but after some time it goes back to before. I obviously don‘t want to force sex on him or anything and if he doesn‘t want to that is absolutely fine! It‘s just a bit frustrating. We have sex 2-3 times a month. I feel so bad saying this but sometimes I think about how it would be if I were single and could hook up with all these men. And then I feel so incredibly guilty. I don‘t know if this is a phase and it‘ll just pass… AITAH?