Preface - I did not share my opinions with anyone in this incredibly small town.

So there are two stories here. This is the first one- I was dating this guy John at the time. He worked in a deli with his friend named Joe.

Joe had a girlfriend named Cindy. She also worked at the deli.

Cindy had been trying to break up with Joe for awhile but he always threatened to kill himself if she did. Well eventually she did break up with him and guess what, he killed himself.

His friends including my ex boyfriend blamed Cindy for Joe's death. Apparently her new boyfriend, who was an older wealthier man, brought her to the deli to pick up her paycheck. He didn't go inside, but I guess they saw him parked outside the front of the deli.

His friends came at her, telling her she's being insensitive for bringing her new boyfriend around Joe.

When he killed himself, no one would allow Cindy to the funeral. All Joe's friends claimed that was only fair because it was "her fault" he died since she broke up with him "for money" and "flaunted" her new boyfriend around Joe.

To top it off, at the funeral there were a bunch of women who worked at the deli who were emotional and crying. One of my ex boyfriends friends made the comment "women only cry at funerals for attention. This is ridiculous." Something to that effect.

Personally? I think Joe is a psychological manipulator and abuser. And I think my ex boyfriend and all his stupid ass friends are sexist for blaming this poor young woman for the death of this asshole. I think he ruined her life.

This is an incredibly small town. She had to move away due to the bullshit she had to encounter following his death.

Second story- my high school friend had been in a physically abusive relationship in the same town for years. She tried desperately to get away and once she finally did, her broke into her house, shot her dead and killed himself.

Well the police officers who arrived at the scene denied that this guy was the culprit because he was their friend. They protested her funeral because she's a "dumb manipulative bitch who drove him to it."

He worked at a grade school. They hung his picture up in the gymnasium as a memorial and basically denied or refused to acknowledge that he murdered her. A grade school. With young children. Fucking cunts. Even the news was broadcasting her death and interviewing people who were like "well that's what she gets for dating an abuser."

AITAH for thinking the entire town needs to be fucking flattened? Am I supposed to give them grace for their grief? These incidents made me hate every single one of them and I'm never going back unless it's to burn this entire place to the ground (not really but those are my emotions.)