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Okay..... I honestly didn't think thered be another update but here goes. This only happened today and I'm still feeling a bit unsure about things and am still very upset.

So over the last few weeks alot has happened. My mum and dad have both apologised and we're working on our relationship whether you agree with that or not - thats the decision ive made.

Sally also came to see me and we talked through the whole situation like adults. We both apologised to one another for how we made the other feel and we've been okay since. Not back to normal but better than it was. Whilst Sally was at mine she suggested I be the bigger person and reach out to Bea. After a few days and mulling her words I messaged Bea and told her I would be taking my son to see our parents today. She said she would come through to see us.

My son, SO and I got to my parents this morning for 10am - we had to leave at 11.30 as weve had other things going on today. 45mins later Bea shows up with her baby (now 5 weeks old). My mum asked Bea to let me hold him. Bea refused and said we needed to talk first, which was fine.

I commented on the baby, asked how they were all doing and even gave her a gift that me and my SO had picked up the other week (just a stuffed toy, nothing crazy). Bea gave me one word answers with my mum filling in all the other details. At one point Bea handed the baby to my mum and left the room for about 10mins. My mum asked me to go and see her. I refused as she'd barely acknowledged any of us since she came into the house. She came back in and again, barely spoke.

As we were packing up to go Bea said she was sorry for being quiet but that she was feeling awkward after 5 weeks. She said that I'd upset her by not contacting her to check on her and the baby. I told her that I knew she'd had a lot on being a new mum, baby is exclusively BF, not alot of sleep and that she was recovering from surgery and I hadnt wanted to hound her. She started shouting at me calling me ridiculous and that that's not what sisters do. That sisters are there for one another and I'd hurt her feelings.

She continued to shout at me (whilst holding her baby) about that she never said i couldn't go to the hospital, that I'd misconstrued what she had said and that she doesn't know how this will be fixed.

My SO, mum and dad tried to difuse the situation by saying they could see both sides and that even though we were frustrated with one another she needed to calm down and just talk. Bea then started shouting at my parents saying she was sick of them taking my side.

At that point I couldn't even say anything. My son was in the room and picking up on the frustration and anger from Bea and asking to go. I told my family we were leaving. My mum and dad followed us out and I broke down when I got in the car. My mum asked me to go back inside. I couldn't. I was too angry and needed to remain calm for my son and for the drive home. Bea came to the door with the baby and said she didn't want me to go like this. I told her tough. I'd tried and all she'd done was shout at me.

My SO tried to get me to turn around and go back but I couldn't bring myself too. I was so upset I just wanted to come home.

My mum rang me when we got home asking if I was okay. I broke down again and said no. That I'd tried but all Bea had done was shout at me and tried making me out to be a liar. She'd taken absolutely zero accountability for what she'd said to me and my SO all those weeks ago. My mum and dad actually both commended me for staying so calm whilst Bea had shouted. I told my mum that I refuse to be a parent that loses it in front of her kid and in order for me to remain calm, I'd needed to leave.

My mum and SO say I should contact Bea again once I've calmed down but I honestly don't know what to even say at this point. So yeah..... for those that are interested in any of this, that's where we are right now...