I (FTM19) just broke things off after a week seeing someone (M20). There’s a lot of background for this so please bear with me.

Okay, so me and this guy have been close friends for about half a year. We clicked immediately and always had a bit of sexual tension. He eventually asked me out and I said yes, we dated for like literally 3 days before breaking it off after a medium conflict.

We got in contact with each other again a few weeks later. I said I wanted to just be friends, he confessed his love for me.

A side note I am neurodivergent (so is he) and I am VERY platonically affectionate with my friends and have had trouble differentiating platonic and romantic feelings ever since I was little. So, we ended cuddling one night which I admit was probably a mistake on my end. There were lots of drunk/high texts back and forth over a week (sorry lol we’re in college) that were sexual in nature. Then he’s kind of flirting with me after I said we have to stay friends. We sat down and he said he couldn’t be my friend if we weren’t romantic. I said okay. He reached out again a few days later wanting to talk and “leave the door open”. I mistakingly thought this meant he was chill about the friend/romantic thing.

So then against my better judgement I decide to give it a shot, hoping the romantic feelings (thought I had) I had for him at one point would come back and we could be happy together! Very naive. I did say that I didn’t love him and my feelings weren’t as strong as his. He said that was fine. We were together only ONE WEEK when I decided it probably wasn’t best for us to date, and that I was leading him on. I wanted to end it before things got too serious, but I will admit for had a lot of sex.

Fast forward to tonight and I asked him to talk. He kind of cuddles up to me and I very gently try to explain that it’s not fair to him for me to keep seeing him, my feelings aren’t what I thought/didn’t develop the “right” way. He kind of shoved me aside, yelled at me, and slammed my door before I could keep talking. For context, we live in the same college dormitory. I got scared because I don’t like when men yell at me. I freaked out and texted him ( a little mean I will be honest, but trying to explain ) he then says he’s coming back. I tell him to go away and leave me alone, and he doesn’t at first. I say we should talk later, then I say tomorrow (because I’m freaking the fuck out) and he kind of begs me and says it’s the “least I can do for interrupting his night with this”. So we talk again after I had him promise not to yell.

He said a lot of things over the course of texts and in my room. Some of them being: I’m pathetic, not an adult, using him for sex and attention, and I always screw men over. Is he right? I know I really shouldn’t have tried again with him, and it was wrong and probably a little selfish. He said he was clear that he needed me to be fully in it, but I didn’t get that vibe. My confusion caused him pain, which is the last thing I wanted but I couldn’t keep seeing him for both of our sakes. I think he was too harsh.

So AITAH?