I'll try and keep this short but a friend of mine 25F started dating this dude we'll call them Jack and Jill. Jack is a 30M and has had a problematic past and never stays in one place long. He's also had issues with me and a lot of my friends.

He started dating Jill and she immediately switched up. Got distanct stopped coming around etc. One day after months of distance Jill calls me up to tell me another mutual friend ( We'll call him Richard) told Jack that I was making disparaging remarks about Jack and that if I couldn't make things right with Jack, Jill and I couldn't be friends. I contacted Richard he told me it wasn't true. ( It really bothered me that Jill lied about that. It was messy imo )

I didn't like the manipulative energy around the situation but I do not stress over whats not in my control. I told Jill we don't have to be friends if thats what Jack wanted. Unfollow on everything.

Months go by, I'd occasionally see them at functions. I would mind my own business and lived my life. I get a text from Jill months later talking about how " she confused the situation wit Richard and that me being passive aggressive wasn't beneficial to anyone. I ignored the text and never replied as this was 3 months after we decided not to be friends.

A week later I get a email from another mutual friend and community organizer telling me that I am no longer welcome to their events. The way I've been bullying Jack and Jill is disrespectful and makes them feel unsafe " I tried to get a further explanation to no avail.

I was disappointed that Jill got caught up in Jacks lies but I defended myself. Spread the word and carried on with my life.

4 weeks later BIG SURPRISE but Jack and Jill break up. A few days after that I get an apology from the event organizer about " not hearing my side ".

Since all this happened Jack who apparently has boarderline personality disorder has made multiple attempts to ruin my reputation, get me fired from my job etc. As for Jill she's all " Lets me friends " " we need to talk "

And I want nothing to do with her. I dont care if she was manipulated. I don't care if she was in an abusive relationship. She turned on me got distant and lied on my name for no reason. Im grown and don't appreciate the drama.

Am I the asshole for not wanting anything to do with these people? No final talk, no goodbye, just a simple move on and never speak again.

TLDR. Friend that stabbed me in the back wants to be friends again and I aint having it.