So late last year my boyfriend and I bought our very first home, I’m 26F and he’s 26M. We’ve been very lucky to be able to buy a home this young where we live and we love every aspect of our house, it’s our pride and joy.

My best friend and I have been close for many years and we offered for her and her boyfriend to move in shortly after we took ownership. They lived at home with one of their parents so we wanted to give them an opportunity to move out and get more independence. We thought it’d be great as we’ve always been close and gotten along well.

Well… it hasn’t been going very well. To be fair I am a very clean and organized person, I like things to be done a certain way, and I’m very cautious of how things are done around the house. Like doing laundry in the low cost times for hydro, running the dishwasher once it’s full, not showering for excessive amounts of time, keeping the heat low (I’m not freezing anyone out).

I’ve talked to my roommates/friends many times about these things but they’ve basically gone crazy because it’s their first time not living at home. Literally showering 2-3 times a day if they have a chill (we live in a colder climate) for 30+ minutes (each). Doing a minimum of 8 loads of laundry a week - my boy friend and I do maximum of 3 possibly 4 if washing our bedding. They literally ran the dishwasher with 3 plates and 4 cups in it. Turning on every single light, electronic device of some sort and tv possible in the house then going to bed with everything on. We have 2 full size ovens and instead of putting their frozen pizza in with our dinner they will cook their dinner in the whole other oven instead of either waiting 5 minutes or just because.

The house constantly has crumbs in the floors, in the counters, somehow in drawers, and love to leave dishes left behind. things and belongings left everywhere even though I tidy up almost every day. They’ve never washed the floors or wiped the counters, they only clean their bathroom and bedroom (with my cleaning supplies). Also they’ve literally never paid rent on time, and they pay a very very tiny amount of rent.

At this point I’m beginning to get extremely resentful and have resorted to hiding in my bedroom. Which really sucks because I feel like I don’t even belong in my own home anymore. I love them but I’m really not enjoying living with them, they’ve taken over my home, my space and made me go crazy because I can’t live in this mess anymore. Would I be the asshole for asking them to move out sooner than a year?