We’re both 19 and in university, we’ve been together since we were 17, so almost two years now. I love him but I’m starting to make decision based on my future and i’m starting to question if I actually want him to be apart of it

For context we’re both south asian so naturally our families feel like they should be very involved in our lives. However, I’ve never wanted this and maintained a reasonable distance from mine, and now they don’t really expect any involvement from me. He, on the other hand, prioritises his family, specifically his mother over everything else.

At first I thought it was sweet, we would talk about his family a lot and how close they are. But then he started talking about our future, saying he wants us to move in to his parents house for a few years after we get married (we plan to do so at 23/24) which I contested. I would also be expected to cook full meals for not just his immediate family, but his mother sister’s family too and any other extended relatives who visit, so very often.

I’ve known all this information for months and honestly i’ve assumed i’d be able to convince him otherwise, but now I’m not so sure. I’m staying in his apartment currently, I have been for about a week. This morning i got up and went to the toilet. Whilst I was quite literally peeing, he opened the door (we have set prior boundaries that we don’t enter the bathrooms when we’re doing our business) and told me to ‘shut the fuck up and don’t move, my mom is calling’. I have been sitting here now for 50 minutes while he talks to his mom and I honestly started crying. I don’t know if I’m overreacting but I feel like this is a tell tale sign of how our relationship is going to be in the future, me being pushed aside for his mother.

Am I an asshole for wanting to break up over this ?