I’m 27F 3 months into the relationship with 28M and I can’t stand it anymore. I’ve been trying to justify these behaviours but it’s getting more and more icky:

• first couple dates his mom’s been calling him several times asking his whereabouts. He deliberately missed the calls because he doesn’t know how to explain to his mom why he isn’t home. He made up some excuse later that night and had to find somewhere that sounds like the place he told his mom where he went to call back. I asked him why he can’t be honest, he said because he’s currently u employed and his mom might think girls distract him from finding a job.

• we spent a night spent together at a hotel for the first time after 2-3 weeks of being official. He lied to his mom that my mom wanted to see him, because her daughter (me) is looking for a husband and she wants to make sure the guy is okay, then my mom asked him to stay over because it’s getting late. I was pretty pissed because not only he lied, he made my mom look very desperate and pushy.

• he sent me audio messages of his mom and his private conversations, usually during arguments, without his mom knowing. I told him I was uncomfortable listening to it because I felt like I invaded their privacy and there are things I am not supposed to listen. He then explained he might not remember 100% of the original contents of why his mom was wrong during the argument if he text me about that later, so he rather send me the original audio. I asked him not to do that again but he still send more and was upset that I didn’t want to listen him rant after the second time I told him to stop.

• I recently went on a boat party with my colleagues/friends, I also invited my boyfriend to the party but he didn’t want to pay for it as he’s currently unemployed. I sent him a group photo of me in bikini and my friends in beach shorts, the guy next to me had his arm wrapped around my shoulders in the photo. He got upset about that and says my colleague did not respect him as he knows well that I have a boyfriend. He also told/showed the photo to his parents and told me how his parents agreed that they’d feel uncomfortable too.

I’ve finally admitted to myself that I no longer find him attractive because of these icky traits. AITAH for thinking he’s a mama’s boy and wanting to call it quits?