For context, my boyfriend and I are together for two years now. We are the Same age, working full time and recently moved in together. We are both active, but with a twist: he dropped going to the gym as a hobby right after we got together and blamed my routine for that. We were long distance before. He was waking up at 4, going to work at 7, in between working out etc. I was training mma in my hometown in a sort of club. Since moving to his city, I wasnt able to work out much. He said I shouldnt go jogging cause it could be dangerous. Also, he wanted us to go to the gym together. That was 1 1/2 years ago. Since then he told me not to wear certain things, and said to my face that it would ruin his pride, cause other man could be seeing things only he is allowed to see. We talked about it, and after long discussions I told him, that it's my body and my decision. Now, we finally signed up for a gym near us (10min walking distance), and already got two workouts in. But now, he doesnt really want to go anymore, and makes comments about my clothing decisions again. I sat down with him and asked him, if he'd be fine with us going to the gym seprately from time to time, because I got the feeling that our goals are different -mine are more feeling strong and healthy, his are more aesthetical- and we had different ideas of consistency. He lashed out about how I could bring this up, and that this hurt him. I tried to calm him down, telling him that I want to understand him, but that he has to talk to me about his issues. He nearly cried and just told me, he doesnt want me to go alone, especally not with me not going to the "lady" part of the gym, where I should belong when I'm wearing "stuff like that" for working out.

I feel miserable and unstable. I dont want to consider breaking up just because this pattern of trying to control my body always occurs in such situations, but I also need my freedom. I feel like I've waited so long to finally work out again.

Am I the asshole?