I'm in my early 40s and have been married for over a decade. My spouse and I have two daughters in primary school. We met in our late twenties when I was going through a difficult time—depressed, socially isolated, and unsure of myself. I had little relationship experience before her.

Despite early doubts, I stayed in the relationship and committed to building a life together. We moved in, got married, had our first child—but my partner struggled with unhappiness, mainly due to unfulfilling work and a sense of lacking purpose.

Eventually, we moved abroad for a job opportunity I took. She stayed home at first with our young child. Around that time, I was already feeling unsure about the relationship. Then came our second child—not really planned—which understandably delayed any thoughts of separation.

A few years ago, she tried working again but hasn’t been able to maintain a job. During that time, I spiraled emotionally. I numbed myself with heavy weed use and made a mistake by having a fling with someone at work. It wasn’t about love—just a reckless, desperate move.

Recently, I’ve stopped smoking, started therapy, focused on my physical and mental health, and met someone who reminded me what a genuine emotional connection can feel like. Nothing has happened between us, and probably never will. But it woke me up.

Now, I’ve made the decision to divorce. I haven't told my wife yet. We’re good friends, and there’s no active conflict—but there’s also no real emotional bond anymore. The hardest part is that she’s still financially dependent, and I want to ensure my daughters are safe, secure, and loved through all this. I’m planning to leave the house to her and pursue co-parenting.

So—AITA for wanting to leave a peaceful but emotionally numb relationship, just because I want the possibility of a fuller life?