📝 AITAH for wanting to involve the cops in my work place

By Acidic_Rose007 • Score: 12 • April 4, 2025 11:17 AM


This job is causing me anxiety

I 26 yrs (F) started working my current employer 4 months ago. I was over achieving and quickly made friends with my coworker due to being in office from 8am to 9pm.

I got close to a few people never crossing boundaries. I got close to a guy in our team (32M) We got along quite well, he complimented me all the time and would open up about his personal life. (He's in what some call a white marriage he lied to come to the country as he desires to get a Canadian passport to go back to dubai)

I didnt think much of it and perhaps this wont matter to you reading this. I do have to say, he was quite handsome always turned head in the office. However i have 2 rules. 1. Dont mess around with married man 2. Dont mess around with coworker

We had gotten close go the point of him hugging me goodbye and telling me his weekend plans. I do want to say, im not much to look at and grew up in a community where this was the norm (hugging) So, i didnt think much of it.

On february 12th he asked to "hang out" he made jokes such as "lets practice.making babies" and "i bet i could please you and relax you" It made me uncomfortable but again i thought this was him joking around. It took me 2 hours to message him and advise , Valentine day is not a day i wanna hang with a coworker. He confessed "Rose, i dont believe in friendship and i dont wanna be lovers i want an inbetween. When i find a girl attractive i f*** her if she cant or wont i have no use for her."

I was shocked, im a shy and insecure girl. I dont mess around at all. So i declined his offer. I was rather disgusted. The confession of him wanting to be f buddies was texted to me and i did take screenshots due to this leaving me with a sick feeling

The next Tuesday i got in the office and my boss called in. He had reported me for misconduct. Claiming i was making him uncomfortable.

My boss (44M) advised this was meaning i was to steer clear as this would go in my file. I advise of the advances and how i had proof i turned him down. My boss advised to leave it at that. How they didnt need drama. They didnt need to investigate further. I complained to HR they wanted nothing to do with what happened outside the office.

This was tanking my reputation over me refusing adultry and f****** around in the office. From there i kept to myself i was told everyday how the joy that once was in the office was gone and how the mood was off.

I started being myself again in march and although avoiding him still being in office after hours working on projects and files. The past week he did a mistake with my customer and i had to advise as it prevented me from doing my job. I was met with "youre a liar, you spread lies" i reported it to my boss again. Then i was met with a complain from his best buddy advising i was "bothering" when i worked on projects at my desk in the evening.

1) i stay near my own desk 2) i dont speak with them 3) before this week where he lashed out at me this was not an issue.

I guess im here for advice. Im being harassed by two people based on nothing. (They had 0 proof of anything's while i did saved on my phone) and my boss including HR wont get involved. And did advise jockingly if this was so serious to call the cops.

Ps: a few people in the office do know as i do have a tight kitting circle. Girls are trying to steer clear from them two due to this. Some are Now scared as they are protecting someones word over physical proof.

I have proof of the sexual harassement and the slander. Im stuck potentially calling the cops,ice or a lawyer if this continues... Aitah for wanting to involve the cops?

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