I’m semi-new to the area and after a year I made the mistake of getting into a relationship with the wrong person. I wasn’t attracted to him for the most part but his persistence got me I guess. Then I realized he’s poor… a dirty, roach infested apartment, no car, no drivers license on parole for a DUI. In the end, I did too much including lending him a few thousand dollars when he was threatened with eviction. At the end… never got the money back, I’m just over being used, voluntarily I guess. Now, this other guy comes around and he knows of the previous situation that I JUST got out of. But I’ve let him know, I’m not interested in a relationship. While he has a job driving a truck, he has no actual vehicle, or apartment, bad credit, etc. I’ve explained that I’m not interested as we’re in our 40’s and for you not to have anything is unacceptable to me. He says it’s materialistic but to me it’s just you’re behind in adulting and I don’t have the time teach a grown man how to be a grown man. I’ve offered to be friends but he’s made it clear that’s not what he wants and he will be persistent. I’ve cut communication a few times and he always pops back up. Is this just yet someone else trying to come up off of my back and wallet? Am I being materialistic or just realistic? Overall he’s a cool guy but I’m also not in love with the fact that he has kids, as I don’t and prefer to date men without kids as well.

AITAH?!?