I (30M) have a friend from school. He's of the same age as me, currently unemployed and trying to make it big in a particular sport. However, due to a host of factors they haven't made it big and is currently living with his parents / off their pension income.

We keep in touch though, and I've tried to meet him for a beer whenever I visit home.

Over the past few years I've grown to be annoyed with him for a host of factors - 1) Whenever we speak on the phone, he mainly talks of himself - grumbles about his nosy relatives to friends from school / neighborhood - to the extent that it gets quite negative. 2) When we text, it's mainly tech advice that he needs or more of the same, except it's dumped in TikToks or paragraphs at random times in the day. When we talk of some common interests (movies for ex), at times stuff I mentioned is just glossed over. 3) Of late, there's been an unhealthy obsession with an old crush. She has a boyfriend atm, but since they've blocked each other on Instagram, I've been his primary source of info of her Instagram activity - it's not soemthing I'm comfortable with, but hey. 4) Has an obsession of quoting old messages and texts from ages ago to reference and make a point, in case I've forgotten something. 5) All our conversations are pretty one sided - I've pretty much stopped sharing stuff about myself after an event where I shared how much I make, and he stopped talking for a month or so. Even when he does ask, the questions feel perfunctory. 6) Made suggestions to start working or perhaps do his masters, but wants to continue practicing his current sport till he makes it big.

It's been slowly building up. Over the past year I've barely responded to his texts. A week back, he texted me asking how I was and mentioned he hadn't heard from me in a while, which was ignored. Today, he reached out about his crush, and that's when I lost it.

We had a call and I ripped him one - mentioned how negative he was, the messages, that if he wanted to vent this often should probably see someone, told him to move one with that crush etc. Pretty much everything I had on mind, but laced with such profanity, that I surprised myself. He said that I was guarded and wouldn't talk about my own stuff so he stopped asking me, and mentioned that he didn't deserve me behaving this way.

It went on for am hour, and told him to shove his phone up his AH and cut the call. Haven't heard from him since.

I now feel bad about the vulgarity, and the way I attacked him all of a sudden / out of the blue.

AITAH?