A little bit of background before getting into the story. I (19M) and my friend (20M) decided to room with each other in college. During our first semester I went home for a weekend while he stayed at college. When I got back to our dorm I found that my pillows were missing. I asked my other roommate (18M) where they were and he told me my friend hid them. However, my friend was not there as he had an event that night. So, I searched my pillows and ended up finding them fairly quickly. He hid one in a drawer that he and I shared and the other in his pillow case, in his bed. I thought that hiding my pillow in his pillowcase and bed was weird but I brushed it off. After finding my pillows, I thought it was only fair to hide his. I hid both his pillows in the same place, in a plastic tote that he owns. Pretty soon after that I went to bed because I had classes in the morning. 

I went through my normal day of classes and went to lunch with my friend, roommate, and a mutual friend of ours (19M). At lunch my friend basically berated me and said how what I did to him was outrageous. He said how he had to be up early in the morning and I had messed it up as he lost 30 minutes of sleep. He even said “What I did was like a match and you brought a flamethrower.” After going back and forth for a bit I told him where his pillows were and I thought we dropped it. At dinner, that very same night, it was my friend and our mutual friend. My friend brought it back up and I said how I felt he was very unjust in being mad at me as we did the same thing. He said that we didn’t do the same thing, as I could have asked him where my pillows were but he couldn’t ask me. I said how he could have woken me up if it was a really big deal and that I didn’t think to ask him as I thought it was a prank and it would ruin the fun to give it away. He said how that was untrue and that he was such a nice person he would have told me where my pillows were and that he wouldn’t wake me up. This went on until he wanted me to apologize for what I did. I said I’d apologize if he apologized. Without a response from him, I said I was sorry for taking his pillows and didn’t mean for him to lose sleep. He then went to lecture me again before I asked him to apologize. He then apologized and I had thought it was finally over. 

Fast forward to the next semester of college, I was out one night with our mutual friend at the gym. We had a pretty intense session and topped it off with 40 minutes of cardio. Safe to say I was pretty tired and all I wanted was to go back to my dorm and shower and go to bed. After the 10 minute walk back to my dorm, I found my pillows were missing. I said that I didn’t want to look for the pillows and to just give them back as I checked very obvious spots. Him and my roommate said april fools but I said how I didn’t want to do this and just wanted to go to bed. My friend then told me no and to look for them. This made me fairly angry and I grabbed his pillows and threw them outside of the dorm (I shouldn’t have done that but I was tired and angry). When I got back I asked him for pillows back and my voice grew louder (A little too loud as we have quiet hours in our dorm and it was during that time. However, we never got a noise complaint so I wasn’t super loud.) I asked him to give my fucking pillows back. This continued for a few minutes as I kept saying the same thing. I eventually said how last time this happened he said how he was so nice and that if I asked for them back he would give them back. He said how he was nice and that if I asked kindly for my pillows back he would give them back. I then said how I didn’t have to ask nicely for my own property back and that to just give them back to me. After that, he stood up and forcibly shoved my pillow into my chest. I said thank you and went to take my shower and go to bed.

 In the morning I go to all my classes and then lunch. During lunch I found out that he left our snapchat group chat that had me, him, our roommate, and mutual friend. Then our mutual friend told me how he was cutting me off and that he couldn’t deal with my immaturity. I thought it was just going to blow over and we were going to let it go. But it has been weeks and he has yet to talk to me unless I ask him something (Even then he barely gives an answer). A few days after what happened I found that he gave back his half of our Deadpool and Wolverine friendship necklace. I tried to apologize to him about it too but he said how he didn’t want to talk to me. I have talked with both my roommate (Who heard and saw the whole altercation) and mutual friend about it and they say that we were both in the wrong but he is taking it to the next level.

So, am I the asshole for yelling at him to give me my pillows back?