So 2 weeks ago, there was an incident involving me (16M) and one of my classmates, who happened to be one of my friends (15F). Right before class started, she apparently thought I called her a wh*re. Me being completely unaware that she was upset because she thought I had called her a wh*re, shoulder-bumped her, as she was standing in front of my chair where my music stand goes, laughing as I did it. (I do not pick up many on social cues! Working with my therapists on it though!) Last week on Monday, I got called into the office, and told that she was my victim and that I got two days of ISS for "Physical Contact (No Horseplay)." My principal said that I have a history of using inappropriate language, and this time it must be punished. While I do call my friends "bitch" and stuff, it is my way to show affection, if that makes sense. Anyways, she told me that I have had no progress since my freshman year. That really hurt because I used to be that gay drama-riddled kid, but I have only been in one singular piece of drama this year, excluding the stuff I am talking about in this post.

Anyway, after explaining my side of the story, the "friend/victim" told the principal that I indeed did not call her a whore. Now the principal said that the reason I am still going to be punished is because I have a problem, and that physical contact is terrible regardless, and that since I'm a guy, I shouldn't even think about it. I understand that just because I'm gay doesn't mean that I don't have to respect personal boundaries, but, I'm confused what they exactly punished me for. Is it because I am a man and she was a woman? (I'm not trying to mitigate any fault I have in the situation, because I am not completely innocent, but this is a genuine question here.)

While in ISS, she extended the whole story and said that I pushed her down an entire flight of stairs. I have drove her home from competitions and games before, and felt betrayed by her lack of communication. The main reason I am upset is because she didn't communicate. She has a past of doing this type of stuff to people, but I went out on a limb to be there for her. I am now ineligible to run for NHS leadership. I communicated what she was saying to my principal, and she said, "It's over, just stop talking about it." While I understand that talking about just makes it worse with my peers, I was talking to the admin about it, because I find it unfair that I was punished for SHOULDER-BUMPING someone who I thought was my friend. It is now harming my chances at college too! AITAH?