When my daughter was around 4 months old I had issues with FIL who kept calling her sexy. He would try to change her diapers when we told him not too. He specifically once looked at her thighs and said her thighs were so sexy. Needless to say we cut him off. Husband called him out on his behavior and he claimed I was insane and accused my dad for starting drama even though my dad wasn’t part of the situation at all.

Fast forward three years and me and my daughter haven’t seen him. My husband cut him off but now he keeps showing up at the restaurant he bartends at. He acts like nothing happened and hasn’t even apologized for making us uncomfortable. We went on Halloween to get take out and he was there so we stayed in the car while husband got it. His dad asked if the kids were in the car so he could see then (this was recently so 2.5 years after initial cut off. I told husband he needs to set him straight and make sure he knows that it will never be a chance to see any of our children, which he told him, along with asking him not to come to the restaurant so much. Me and the kids can’t even visit my husband because his dad goes all the time and I am very uncomfortable seeing him.

My husband does not want to see him either, but obviously had to be professional at work. Last week my dad was in the hospital while my husband was at work. My husband left work early and mentioned to his dad that my dad was in the hospital. His dad made a comment about how my dad should apologize to him, and basically that being in the hospital is karma, which I don’t get because my dad wasn’t involved in the cut off. I think his dad has always been jealous of mine.

Anyways my husband has been bothered more recently as his dad isn’t respecting his wishes and not coming in to the restaurant as much. He told him again the other day that he had to stop coming in so much and he is taking the matter too lightly, and that if anyone had done this to his daughter he would have cut them off too.

Is it wrong to tell his dad to not go to the restaurant he works at? It is obvious he only goes because my husband works there so he wants to see him. He never went out to eat before and mostly only goes when my husbands working.