My husband and I met 15 years ago at a bar. We’re both social drinkers. I normally drink about 4 times a month, typically when I get together with my friends or coworkers for happy hour. My husband drinks maybe once a month if he goes out with the guys or on a guys trip. The problem is when we try to do something together. For instance, we had a dinner party to attend for one of my coworker’s retirement. He left the house to take the kids to grandmas so I started to get ready and got myself a drink. He got home, sees my half drank High Noon and made some comment like he was annoyed. I asked him what the deal was and he said “you act different when you’re drunk”. I asked him the difference in my sober self vs my drunk self, he couldn’t really explain besides that we end up arguing. The literal only reason we argue when I drink is because I’m drinking. That’s it. Nobody else has a problem with me. I don’t get loud or sloppy or belligerent. I can’t figure it out. I swear we’d have a great time together if he would just let me be me and not overanalyze every sip I take. I know the “right” thing to do is not to drink around him but i feel like it’s deeper than that. AITAH for wanting a drink when we go out together? Or for feeling like there’s something wrong in our relationship bc of this?