This is something out of post factum curiosity, since there are no stakes in it anymore and the whole scenario is about 14 years ago.

I told my partner yesterday that during one date with a woman I met before her, I just stood up in silence, paid my coffee and left. This left her kind of baffled and she said that was shitty behavior.

The background is: the woman I went on a date with was suggested to me by a friend. She knew that I was very into music and the arts in general and so she suggested somebody I could meet who is into the same stuff. I actually did meet her at a party beforehand and she seemed perfectly nice, so I agreed to meet her.

During the date we talked about general life stuff at first. I told her that I was interested in artistic things too and tried to get the conversation going. When I described what I liked about certain things, I never got any follow-up questions or comments or even acknowledgements that she doesn't know what I'm talking about. It was always "ok", "aha" or "mh".

At some point I've had enough and I just stood up, paid and left.

The thing is - my current partner of 12 years was the exact opposite of that! That's why we got together and I would have never done it with her or somebody who seemed at least a little bit interested.

So - AITAH?