I (34F) has been with my bf (34M) for 2 years now. We have a happy relationship, we almost never fight because we pretty much discuss any misunderstanding we may have. We communicate clearly with each other, trust each other and laugh a lot together. The biggest fight we've ever had in our relationship was because of his mom, which almost broke us up. The challenge we have with our relationship is his mother which gives me second thoughts about being with my bf.

After my bf and I had been together for a year, we decided to get married, everyone in his family was in support of this apart from his mom. She made a lot of assumptions about me and how our marriage will turn out which led to my bf calling off our plan to marry even after I agreed to sign a prenup to protect his assets. Some of the assumptions she made were that, I'm not qualified enough to get a job in their country, I'm going to control his finances, that I'll control his movements, that he has anger issues and not ready for any commitments, and ultimately I'm with him only for his money and that my plan is to get him to marry me so I'll stop working and have him take care of me.... Absolute BS!.... She also advised him not to have any conversations with me about the future but he should only have fun with me.

I understood the decision to call off the our plans to marry then, mostly because he said we've not been together longer and don't know each other well. Fast forward, I got a job and moved to his country on work permit a year ago. We've been living together since I came here. As I said, we have a happy relationship, we have activities together, cook together, while balancing his time to spend time with his family. Due to his mom's negativity towards me, my bf has decided to keep me and our relationship away from his mom, although we live in the same city and 15 minutes walk apart.

My bf went over to have an Easter dinner with his mom today and he tells me the dinner was bad. He said his mom threatened him not to make any commitments to me or she will not leave him any inheritance, and she threatened to call his relatives on his dad side not to leave him anything as well. She went through my LinkedIn and says everything on my profile is a lie because she doesn't think I'm smart enough to accomplish those. She's also threatened to call immigration on me and report me to them. (Which Idgaf because she can't do anything about that). She's convinced that I'm using my bf for money which is preposterous.... She told my bf, her son that, she doesn't want to have anything to do with me if he makes a long-term commitment to me but she will tolerate me if he keeps me only as his girlfriend. At this point, I'm disgusted with her that I don't want to have any sort of contact with her.... my bf keeps his stuff in her house so she's asked him to move them out if he decides to make a long term commitment to me... She basically gave him an ultimatum that it's either her or me.... Her reason, I'm not good enough for her son. My bf tells me he stood up to her by asking her questions that 80% of the time she didn't have any logical answers to.

I asked my bf to think about this and decide on what to do, but if he decides to side with her, I'll leave the relationship. It's not an ultimatum but I see it's a pattern that will never stop and I really don't want to be part of the craziness.

If he decides to move his stuff, I may have to go and help him do so.. if I decide to, I plan to call the police and lodge a complain about the situation and that I'm going to her address before I lift a finger to help him, in case she calls the police on me... A typical white woman and a black girl situation.

I'm inclined to send her copies of my school certs, appointment letters and pay stubs, with sensitive information reducted of course and add a letter on how racism and discrimination is poisonous and toxic, as well as notes on Emotional incest.

Side note, I agreed to sign a prenup, I earn more income than my bf so I pay for about 70-80% of our expenses, I don't ask anything of my bf apart from basic expenses which he support with the 20-30% because we spend most of the time together. And I haven't done or said anything ever to her to deserve this level of hostility, disrespect, and racism from this woman. The only thing I did wrong is to love his son and want to have a life with him.

My bf is an amazing person, really supportive and considerate of me. The sad part is, I'm getting irritated with him for loving and respecting such a disgusting, nasty and racist person, simply because she's his mom but I don't blame him. It's just sad to see him caught in the middle due to his mom's immaturity and unexplainable hatred of me.

So, will I be an AH if I decide to leave the relationship if he chooses his mom's side or involve the police if I have go to her house and help him move his stuff from there?

Thank you for reading.