My boyfriend has been training for this marathon for the last four months. I’ve even suggested certain foods that he can eat been reading articles on how to best to support him, been out on runs with him, and simply try to be encouraging. Anything that he sets his mind to he does and it makes me very proud. I even changed plans to go out of town on a different date so I wouldn’t interfere with the marathon. Needless to say I’m invested. the reason I am now thinking of not attending is because I found him liking pictures of half naked females on social media. He also follows a lot of females on his social media. I never saw it as an issue as he used to be in the promoting industry and I understood why there were so many different types of people that he followed. But this was his past. He could have simply stopped following these females after he and I got together, but it was never an issue. It is an issue now because I found that he is still actively following other females; new accounts and liking half naked pictures of them. It made me very insecure and i began to compare myself to these females. In order to keep my sanity, I put a very clear boundary to him. I told him that I no longer wanted him following these females, even if he followed them before him and I were dating. I told him that he needed to analyze why he needed to be looking at half naked pictures of other women and I let him know how it made me feel. This was a very clear boundary for me and it took him a couple of days, but once he was able to analyze, he even said that he would take a 30 day detox and not use social media at all. He said that afterwards, he would also be mindful of not using social media as often. I told him that was great and if he needed to do that in order to make me feel better I agreed with him. But I told him that I also wanted him to delete these females as that was a clear boundary. It has been over a week now and he has done neither what he said he was gonna do and what I asked him to do. Which is why I do not want to go to his marathon. It is very important to him, and I have been very supportive up to this point. But I have not seen him making any effort to stop using social media. I have not seen him unfollowing anyone either. I feel that if I go to his marathon he will think it’s ok to not keep his promise to me and not take my boundary seriously. What should I do? Am I really the ah if I don’t go?