I (20F) am about to turn 21. To preface, my dad (47M) left me alone to move to another state leaving me almost homeless about 2 years ago now when I was barely 19. He now helps run a drinking club in his new found home and they have planned a birthday party for “me.” My dad took the liberty of inviting his family that I have no relationship with and plan the whole trip around my very odd aunts work conference the days after my birthday so I would not be there on the day of. Which is whatever but I was not asked about this decision, I was told. Plus there is a 5 day itinerary already and I was never once asked what I wanted to do. All of my father’s friends are 30+ and want to get me drunk for essentially 5 days strait, which is not only a little creepy but borderline unsafe. I feel badly that they spent money and expect me to be there but I have tried to give input on what I’d like to do or what would be fun to be ignored and told my ideas are only fun for me and no one else. My father was never really that close to me and in fact cut off my two older brothers for frivolous reasons and I feel like if I don’t go he’ll cut me off too. I’m the only one in the family that still talks to him but it’s not a very good relationship clearly, idk, if you don’t want to get screwed be a better father 🤷🏻‍♀️ this is just the tip of the iceberg when it comes to the things he has done in his time as a soul on this earth