Every day I think about how much I hate my (21F) long-distance boyfriend (33M). I’ve directly expressed to him how I don’t want to be with him and he continues to lead me on but I struggle to simply cut him off entirely as that seems like the only option because he isn’t willing to make adjustments the way I have been for him. He doesn’t work and hasn’t for a year, I never hear anything about him looking for or applying to jobs. He is not supportive of my college work or income in the sense that he drags my performance back and seems to have insecurities related to it. He has no plan to come see me. He forces himself to cry when I address issues with him directly. I told him in conversation about something called 996 in China (illegal labor practice where some workers work 9am-9pm six days a week, effectively 72 hours) and he told me thats what his mom does min wage to support the household like it was normal. If he just got his own damn job like an adult and stopped seemingly thinking it was below him or something then she would be able to have a normal work week. I do not want a future with someone like that. My problem is I just hate him when we’re not on call and when it comes to when I’m interacting with him in the present, I can’t bring myself to express this boundary or disdain as firmly as I like. Or it may be the case that when I do he doesn’t take it seriously or make actionable changes or efforts and it leads to me dismissing it as well. He’s all emotional intelligence and no manifestation/hustle/direction. It’s crucial that in a relationship I have shared goals with my partner. I literally cannot see myself doing this any longer and there’s so disruptive things he’s done to my life (like encourage me to go off of my antidepressants and get a second job effectively derailing my first semester of junior year of college) that he literally just seems unaware of the gravity of. I don’t know if I should just give him the harsh “fuck off and don’t talk to me anymore” because thats all I genuinely feel towards him at this point.