Hello Reddit,

AITAH: so me and my partner have decided to create a Christmas gift that would take my niece and nephew out once a quarter to the movies and dinner. They are young but I wanted to have a continues good fun experience and bonding time with them this year since I feel like I failed on this the last couple of years. 1st quarter has gone by but unfortunately no good young kids movies came out in time. This time around we plan on doing this twice this quarter to make up for last quarter. I did not realize that the cost of movie tickets has gone up exponentially and the cost for 2 kiddos, me and my partner is roughly 100 dollars but overall this isn't a problem as im sticking with my plan to create good bonding time. I told my sister that the kiddos get to choose lunch (because of timing movie is now in morning time) and they decided to choose a high end restraunt (shoguns) for the first time. I asked my sister if the kiddos could give me and my partner an option B and that I would need to talk to my partner about this just to see if this was okay. Do thinking back I believe me and my partner have tried to show our love and graduated for my niece and nephew but I think they are starting to get the vibe that we are rich especially since we like to go on nice vacations lately and treat them with nice gifts. I A: financially cant afford spending nearly 250 dollars for lunch and then to add movie and popcorn and drinks B: don't want to create this vibe that we can do this every time and C: me and my partner plan our vacations out months in advance so we can afford these nice trips. So overall for the whole year this simple nice gesture could end up costing me way over 1k dollars for a Christmas gift when my family typically only spends 50 dollars on each other at max but since its bonding with my niece and nephew im willing to eat the cost over time. So I reached out to my sister and told her that I have discussed lunch with my partner and for this first time hang out that we should choose meal option B (BJ's brew house) to help a little on the financial side but also that shoguns should be an option if the kiddos gets really nice grades for the school year, they win a competition in the after school sporting events, or are celebrating a big event like there birthday or something. She replies back with "Just say money is the issue next time, making the kiddos choose lunch than denying it is against the Christmas gifts plan. The special event is that this is there Christmas gift in the first place so I guess in reality they are celebrating something." I honestly don't know how to reply back to that as I read it as aggressive but AITAH for denying the kiddos a high expensive restraunt and don't want to shell out nearly 500 dollars in total for this first time hang out event?