I 28F in a LDR with 28M for almost a year. We met through social media when I was not looking for any relationship then.

Initially It was casual flirting, but he was very interested to be in a relationship and eventually I cought feels too for him. He was calling me wife and everything I was still not sure as we come from different religions and different community. He wanted to come and see me by the next month but I didn't wanted to take things fast b/w us so I was saying no at first.

Then after one and half month one day I haven't got a call from him a whole day I was calling him continuously as I was really really worried then at mid night I got to know he fell ill and he just got his phone back , I was so worried that I cried . But after this a shift happened suddenly he is getting less and less time for me. Even in my birthday we had a fight over his insecurity about other gyes might calling me and he didn't wanted to be an option.. but even if I tried to say no there is no one except him , he couldn't believe I had to give him proof still he fought and we spend my birthday crying the whole day. My family was wondering what happened to me, usually I get very excited in my birthday but not last year. Then he stopped calling me Stopped taking my call, I had to say sorry for all that happened in my birthday, he never said sorry to me.

This pattern is going on still . I was a girl who wanted to talk to her new boyfriend atleast one hr a day but its eventually became chor to him. In between he had to face life changing family problems I was there with him in every was to help him from far. He started to shouting on me the one thing I have trauma about and he knows. Things are very on off from his side . If he feels like hurt he pulls out make a huge issue argue with me and I only say sorry evening it's not my fault and then no contact. I call him again and again because I was scared of losing him.

Last Sunday same thing happened he said he doesn't want to do this anymore like every time. And said not to call him. But me being me I called next day and he basically said he loves me so much but he can't do argument with me and he is not a good person so I should stop calling him. And said ' I fucking don't care about anything ' . And I was crying on the phone so badly he cut the call. I was so out of my mind I injured myself at gym next day, can't do my job, mentally f ed up. Then I called him again he didn't pick up after calling 26+time he picked up and we talked but I am still confused what went wrong he didn't give anything, said not to call like this.

I asked him to block me but he don't want to do that. I need advice about what should be the right thing to do in this setuation as I want this relationship.