Honest opinions needed

My ex-friend was planning her wedding and often said she was stressed, so I offered to help—running errands or making calls since I had free time. My other friend (J) and I were part of the bridal party, and though the bride kept changing plans, we stayed supportive. She frequently changed the wedding date, so much so that J and I didn’t even know when it was. Despite the confusion, I shared dress and vendor options and tried to stay involved.

Around the same time, I went on vacation and got selected for a pageant I’d dreamed of entering. Between that, two jobs, and my regular schedule, I was stretched, but I still kept up with the wedding the best I could. J helped me stay updated.

Then, out of nowhere, the bride messaged me saying I was no longer in the bridal party because I had “too much going on.” It felt cold and formal—nothing like how a friend of 10 years should speak to you. What made it worse was that J was given a choice to stay in the bridal party, but I wasn’t. I lied and said I’d already bought the dress, and then she allowed me back in.

Later, she changed the shoe choice again to silver heels. I had a pair I was already planning to use for the pageant and told her I didn’t want to buy more for just one day. She pushed back but eventually said the shoes were fine.

The Sunday before my birthday, she messaged me again—clearly angry. She accused me of being childish and inconsiderate and said she removed me from the bridal party because she didn’t want my pageant to affect her wedding. She also claimed I downplayed her feelings about the shoes, and that I wasn’t communicating; but there was nothing to communicate about. I was hurt and called her out for creating a problem for me with something that was never a problem to me (ie. me being in the pageant and being apart of the wedding)

She responded with a screaming voice message, which she later deleted, and only said “my points were valid, have a good day.” I told her I’ve never treated a friend like that and blocked her.

I don’t think there’s an apology that can fix how she acted. I also unfollowed her and everything. She still reached out to tell me HBD via instagram. People say she was just stressed, but this wasn’t the first time she’s acted like this. I’ve chosen to walk away for my own peace. Needless to say I’m not going to the wedding