I (27F) am getting married in a few months. It’s going to be a small, intimate ceremony with about 50 guests—just close family and friends. My parents divorced when I was 15, and it wasn’t exactly amicable. My dad and I have a good relationship, but my mom and I have had a lot of ups and downs over the years.

She’s been dating this guy “Rick” for about 6 months. I’ve met him twice. He’s… okay. Not terrible, but definitely not someone I’m close with. The problem is, he gives off a weird vibe, makes some inappropriate jokes, and I just don’t feel comfortable having him at my wedding, especially since my dad and stepmom will be there. There’s tension, and I really don’t want drama or awkwardness on my wedding day.

I told my mom I love her and she’s of course invited, but I’d prefer she come solo. She got really upset and said I’m being disrespectful and excluding someone important to her. She even said if he’s not welcome, she might not come either. I told her that’s her choice, but I won’t change my mind. Now she’s accusing me of playing favorites and punishing her for the divorce (??), and my aunt says I should just “let it go” to keep the peace.

But I feel like my wedding should be about me and my fiancé, not accommodating someone I barely know just to avoid drama.

So, AITAH for not letting my mom bring her boyfriend to my wedding?