I (40f) work 60-80 hour weeks, sometimes being at work 18 hours a day. I love my job, but it is one of the top most stressful jobs in the country. I also run a business with my husband, which admittedly, is my passion. I also do all the household chores. My husband (36m) works 36 hours a week at a gas station. His only passion is rock climbing, but he also helps with the business. He recently left to go hang out with some friends for a week and I had the business and my normal work hours. The business takes about 2 hours of work a day and there is no putting it off, especially cause we’re still small and don’t have some automatic features so it takes some juggling to make it work. Today, I had to go pick up a couple of items for the business so I asked him to help me load a large crate in the back of the truck so I could leave. He sat there drinking his coffee and playing on his phone. I asked again as I was putting on my shoes and he snapped back with “it doesn’t take long for me to do it and you’re not even ready so why are you rushing me?” I told him “because you’re lazy and it takes you forever to get off the couch and I need to leave” He got even more mad and said “you’re calling me lazy? Making someone wait isn’t going to kill you, but if you’re so worried about leaving on time maybe I should just leave the marriage” (for context I am overweight and he is very athletic so his thinking is all overweight people are too lazy to workout) Now, I pay for everything: the house, the utilities and the business. His car, insurance, phone is all financed by me. His paycheck goes to climbing equipment and travels only. So I told him “well, bye” cause I know I’d be fine on my own and I literally teach manipulation tactics at work and viewed it as one. But maybe I’m the AH for hurting his feelings.