I (23F) live with 3 male roommates who are also in their early 20s. One of them in particular I do not get along with. I’ve lived with him for over a year and he gets on my fucking nerves.

He has left the oven on overnight multiple times, has left the gas stove on, coats the stove in grease and let’s it build up for weeks/months, leaves the counters dusted with crumbs, and leaves the back door open when it’s 30 degrees outside, yada yada the list goes on, but somehow he manages to point the finger almost every time to make the rest of us look bad. Even when we’ve asked him to clean, it either doesn’t happen or it takes days-weeks for it to happen. I’m not the perfect roommate either, but I don’t make a mess of common spaces and create safety hazards. He has also violated my physical boundaries multiple times so that just adds onto the resentment.

In this instance, which is not the first time, he has left food to rot in the fridge. I noticed the fridge smelled funky last week so I asked if people could please go through their fridge items since some stuff (like leftover food) has been sitting in it for weeks/months. I got no response to the text and it’s been about a week since I sent it.

To preface, I did a purge of the fridge and freezer before that he agreed to then proceeded to get pissed that I threw away his expired chicken in the freezer. He told me chicken and other stuff can last years in the freezer. I told him sorry and bought him more chicken, even though I didn’t agree with it, but since then I do not feel comfortable throwing away expired stuff that I know is his. So, yesterday afternoon I got fed up and found a moldy container of food with forks in it. I took it out, set it on the counter and left a note that said “Moldy-whoever this belongs to-please throw it away.”

He sent a text to the roommate group chat this morning asking whoever did that to just throw it away instead of leaving a note, and that he found other moldy food in the fridge. I didn’t know if he wanted to keep the forks and container (and I just know he’s not going to clean them properly if he kept them) but I was fed up with food expiring and being left in the fridge. I’m sure if I tell him that and mention I asked if peeps could go through their fridge items a week ago, he’s going to manipulate the situation and make me look bad. So before I engage with him:

AITH for leaving his moldy food on the counter?