Hi sorry first time poster. Sorry for long post.

I (26M) and my partner (24F) have been together for nearly 2 years (+6/8 months unofficial). We have mostly got along and love each other very much, but over time I find that she gets quite angry and irritated very easily and has a short temper.

She tends to (micro) explode and blow up tiny things a lot and honestly over time it has really started to affect my mental wellbeing.

I have always been a very calm and collected individual and even though I am not perfect myself I definitely do stay quite easy going and un phased (to a degree) with most common things.

She tends to get really emotional/agitated with the smallest things to the point where I feel I can’t even be myself around her.

I know that she is quite sensitive to her emotions and her surroundings which is fine. But it gets to a point where I feel like I always have to tread lightly around her.

I am easy going and I am not phased much to the point where it takes a huge toll on my mental state. (Don’t get me wrong I still have my moments where I need to deal with some of my own shit) Lately though she just sits in this dormant position where the tiniest thing could set her off and she’s angry at the world.

I don’t know what to do and how to comfort these situations. I try being there but she’s also gets overwhelmed with too much attention and she is also quite introverted. (I am extroverted)

We have been living together for the better part of a year now and we also have seperate rooms with our own beds so we do get our own space and time to decompress. (We still sleep together and alternate bedrooms sometimes)

She does have some of her own personal issues and traumas (as we all do) but I find no matter what I face the same aggression. Now don’t get me wrong not all the aggression is faced at me. But in her general life I feel that she is an angry person.

Now she’s not always like this when she is calm it’s great. She’s loving companionate and ambitious which I love. But I feel most of her mood swings are leaning towards negative.

It’s just hard to deal with and I feel it slowly changing me and I am drained while I feel like I’m constantly bending myself to please her needs and accomodate her feelings and pushing mine aside for her sake.

For some extra context we are travelling Asia right now with our own accomodation seperate from the others. We were making a friendly bet about whether my sister would hire a bike or not with me (irrelevant) and I was saying how it was an easy win for me (it was a $100 bet).

Anyway within a minute she started backing out and turned it into a whole argument which I don’t even know what it was about (I assume it was because I was laughing that she was backing out so easily because I was confident I was going to win) and she was going on about how she didn’t like me because I was just laughing. Now I’m sleeping on a couch

Sorry for the long post I just don’t know what to do anymore.