My husband(33M) and I(33F) dropped off our 2009 Highlander Hybrid at Toyota to have the rotors for our brakes serviced. The drop off time was at 8:15am and the estimated pick up time was at 3pm.

For context: We have been doing a lot of car work lately. Just 2 weeks ago, we had to bring in the same vehicle (2009 Highlander Hybrid) in for an oil change. About 3 weeks prior to this, we had to bring in again the same vehicle for....something to do with the tires. My husband uses this vehicle for work and has been having about a 2-4 hour commute to work (depending on where his job site is. He works as an Journeyman electrician in construction) everyday. So this of course has been putting wear and tear on the car, hence the multiple services.

I am a stay-at-home mom and I also go to college part-time. Our son has ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder) and is non-verbal. He has multiple therapies every week to help with his development and speech. He is also hyperactive and needless to say I am exhausted by the time the weekend comes.

With these services that we are getting for our vehicle, they (Toyota) offers drop you off back home and pick you up when the vehicle is completed. Normally, on Saturday mornings, my husband offers to get up with our son as to let me sleep in a little bit to recover from the week. We switch this off on Sunday when I would then wake up for him so my husband can get some extra sleep. Since our appointment was on Saturday at 8:15, I woke up at 5:44am (16min before me alarm was supposed to go off at 6am) so I could get ready and prep our son's breakfast and make sure he gets fed before we have to leave. I woke my husband up at 7am. After dropping the car off at Toyota, we then run errands (mainly going grocery shopping) and came back home. At this point we just go about our day, we put our son down for a nap at 11am and my husband and I eat lunch. By the time 1:30pm rolls around I hit the exhaustion wall. I am so tired that I tell my husband I need a little nap. He offers at this point for Toyota to pick him up when the vehicle is ready versus me having to drive there to drop him off. I instead asked if we could just pick up the car tomorrow (today). We have done this one time before and it was fine then. However, my husband got snooty and refused. I explained how tired I was and asked why we couldn't. He just said we need to get this done. We dropped it off and we need to pick it up. And then something about not wanting to leave it there. I didn't what the big deal was as again, we have done this once before for a similar reason (we were both tired the first time and opted to pick up the car the next day). No matter what I said he didn't care and insisted we pick it up today. I said okay but to have Toyota come pick him up so I could stay home with our son. Now that was a problem even though he initially offered. He kept trying to convince me to just drop him off, and I kept telling him that I didn't appreciate him trying to guilt trip me into it. I told him I understand you want this done today, but he could get a ride from Toyota or Uber there. In the end, he wouldn't let it go and in my opinion bullied me into driving him there.

Please let me know if ITHA here. All opinions and comments are appreciated.