I (22f) and my (24m) bf let’s call him T. T and I have been together for 2 years. A couple months back I was finally introduced to his friend who he saw as a sister. Let’s call her G. A little back story about G. G has BPD . And fun fact when you’re pregnant you cannot be on your medication. I didn’t know that until she told me. Well G decided to move in with her boyfriend’s family. Let’s call him S. G was pregnant. She decided she wanted to move in with S who conveniently lived a couple minutes away from us. G and S started coming around and hanging out with us. G and I would watch shows together and talk while T and S would do the same except they’d be working on their cars instead of watching shows. Some times G would go and hangout with the guys in the shop while I stayed inside cleaning or doing other chores around the house. The boys became friends and so did G and I. G and I got really close over the next couple of months. We’d talk about what was annoying us and what happened during the week. Heck I even went to the gender reveal. A couple weeks after the gender reveal T and I we’re having troubles communicating with each other. Around the same time that started so did the lies started. They started out small. I was annoyed one day because T was not communicating if we were still going to a friends place that’s 2 hours away or not. So I asked G who happened to be in the garage for most of the day while I was inside making bread when she came in the house. She looked at me and said T told S he was going with him. And I was confused because T told me it was going to be an us only trip up to the friends place. So I asked T and he looked at me confused and said no I told S that We wouldn’t be home on these days because We were going to be 2 hours away at a friends house. I of course thought well maybe G misheard T or I misheard G. I brushed it off thinking it was nothing. It was just the start. She kept changing up what she was told. Like she asked me how my day was and I said overwhelming and G asked T how my day was because she was confused about what was so overwhelming. So T explained to G what was going on and she came in the house and said that T called me dramatic and that he rolled his eyes. I was hurt and confused by this. Thinking why would he say that. That’s definitely not like T. G asked me to leave her out of it because she was pregnant and didn’t want the stress. I said no problem thinking yeah I don’t blame you. Later I asked him and it caused an argument. I didn’t think to ask T if it was true because I thought he was annoyed by me. A week ago she decided to up the lies. This time it was bad. A friend of mine and T broke it off with her ex. She needed help moving so me and T helped her move everything. When we had one more load left to get we planned on getting it in 2 weeks because her ex would be at work. During the week of waiting G and S came and stayed for the weekend. The boys planned on going mudding while we were watching a movie marathon. During the movies we were watching we were talking and at one point I was venting about a fight that T and I had. G was saying that it sounded like he’s going to leave you. you should leave him before he leaves you. And started saying that he was saying that he was going to Leave me when G was in the garage . And I not gonna shamefully believed everything she was saying. I was so hurt I started crying. I asked her next time she heard T say it if she could record it. She of course said yes no problem. And the next thing she said something I didn’t really pay attention too. G said T tells me bits of things and then I fill in the gaps.

The boys during this left and went and saw a project car to work on and sell. So T and S decided to go and see it before they bought it and it was junk. So T and S decided to park in a parking lot and sit and try to find another car to work on. It got to be 9 -10 pm so they decided to call it quits. T tried to start the truck and it wouldn’t start. Turns out the transmission fluid lines busted and leaked transmission fluid everywhere. So the boys call a friend and stayed there while G and I stayed at my house and went to bed. Well the next morning G started getting mad that S and T were taking too long fixing the truck. And she went off about how she hardly spends time with S. G called S and yelled at him to get over and spend time with her. I texted T and said heads up G is angry. And when the boys were close G was texting mine and Ts friend. And decided to go with the friend 4 hours away to go see someone. As this was happening I had no idea. G got up and said oh I’m gonna grab snacks and go pee in the garage I’ll be right back. I waited for her. I didn’t know that my friend picked her up and left. the boys came back and of course S asked where G was and I said she must be in the bathroom in the shop still. So he texted her to see if she was puking or not and she said oh no I’m 4 hours away hanging out with T friend. I was shocked and said oh ok she didn’t tell me she was leaving. The boys went into the garage and finished what they were doing. And soon G came back but went straight into the garage. I didn’t think anything of it. Wasn’t the first time she’d done that. Soon G and S left. And I finally had the time to talk to T. I broke down in tears asking him if it was true. He looked so confused and asked who told you this. I told him G. He then explained to me he never even said that. I then thought about everything she said. And then it clicked in my head finally. She told me she was lying straight to my face. I then told T That G said she was filling in the gaps. T gave me a hug and told me he believed me. T was pissed. Because this was not her first time starting drama with him. He then told me not to talk to her and that he’d handle it and that he was sorry for how G acted. So every time she texted me I’d open it and not reply. Soon she figured out I was ignoring her and decided to ask . I kept saying what was said was too far and I’d like space before I talk about it. She went off on me after that saying I was causing her stress and that it wasn’t good for the baby and that I should be and adult about it. I then continued to say to her to give me space. After a bit I stopped responding and she called T saying I was being a child and that this is too much stress on the baby. She went off for a bought 5 -10 minutes before T hung up on her.T called and told me to stop texting her. I explained that all I said was I wanted space and T told me just stop texting her or she won’t leave me alone. After a couple hours she left us both alone. After she left us alone our relationship got a lot better. We were communicating a lot better and it was great, But wait there’s more. G decided today to start something new. She decided to call T saying I was running my mouth saying that I needed to keep my mouth shut and that if T didn’t talk to me about it then she would. I however have not run my mouth. I haven’t even said anything about her to anyone except our friend that we helped move. I told the friend because I didn’t want her to be blindsided if G went off on her. The friend didn’t believe me and brushed it off. T after a while of G screaming on the phone he hung up and called me and told me Everything and to block G. I of course did. During this time G decided to blow up the friends phone. Calling and texting trying to talk to her. The friend said I didn’t think she was this bad and agreed to ignore her. G after she realized the friend was ignoring her decided to take it further. G called T again and told him before I blocked her on snap that I said to go f*** herself and that I hoped her kids Died. of course T was pissed that G even said that because he knew I’d never say anything like that. So he once again hung up on G and then call me telling what was said. At this point I was crying because I never said anything to her while blocking her. T then suggested to screenshot everything. So I went to snap because I hadn’t deleted our texts or anything but of course I wasn’t allowed to see our conversation or even look up the conversation because she blocked me. after I found out about that I went to every other social media app that I had her on and screenshot my conversations with her that shows I haven’t talked to her before deleting. I sent it all to T and explained to T I couldn’t see my last conversation with G on snap. He understood and reassured me that he believed me. But when everything was said and done T never blocked G. It bothered me quite a bit. I brought it up and he explained that if he did block right now especially with her being in medicated there was a higher chance she’d find a way over here and brake everything in sight. Which of course would lead to him having to call the cops. Which he didn’t want to do unless it’s needed. I said that I think if you do block her at anytime she’d do it. I’m quite hurt by this whole situation with G and I understand she’s not medicated but I do not think it should be an excuse. G has not once apologized to me or T. And I’m definitely considering keeping her out of my life but then again she’s not medicated. So maybe I will try to talk to her with T when she’s back and regulated on her meds.