Me and my Ex(23M) had a long distance chronically online relationship that lasted for a year, starting in 2020 in which he cheated on me 8 times with different people, and those are the ones that I know of.(btw at that time I was 14 and he was 19 at that time).

We talked really Intermittently through these past 5 years and since then he has become increasingly angry at me because I didn't want to get back with him, while he was meeting new people.

I haven't talked to him since May last year and since then I have heard and read stuff about him all over the internet as he was apparently moderately known in the Spanish speaking weeb world. I recently discovered that he has a new girlfriend(20 f), she is stunning, very funny and they have been in a relationship for half a year, and a week ago, for some reason, after I changed my online name and presence years ago, she reached me, she sent me a voice message while she cried, telling me that she had heard a lot of bad stuff from me, all made up, along the lines of being a promiscuous teenager (I'm chubby and ugly so I don't get much attention) and that I was a cheater, and she joined on those false accusations, insulting me. I have not seen those messages or insults so I don't know what she said.

A day after she said stuff about me a guy she knew came out of the closet and admitted that he was having sex with my ex and maintaining a closed doors romantic relationship with him which she took incredibly bad after she apparently had been warned about the cheating patterns he had with me. She sent me the message to apologize, but told me she didn't want to leave my ex because she loved him.

As a girls boy (I disgust myself I'm sorry) I encouraged her to leave him, as he would continue the cheating until he didn't have her, she started to act all mean towards me, with a horrible attitude because I didn't know his boyfriend as much as she does.

I let it be and told her she could do whatever she wanted and apparently yesterday another person spoke about having a relationship with my ex, that started on December of last year and continued till yesterday, when she spoke about being ANOTHER of the people he was cheating on what he said was his future wife.

Once again I got a voice message where she cried, we went over the same step as last week and she got incredibly defensive, I mean like she insulted me again, saying that I was making fake accounts to come out and say that I was dating my ex. I told her I didn't want anything to do with that and that she should get checked, as well as my ex, then blocked her

Am I the asshole ???