My SO regularly guilt trips me for spending time with other people then her, this could be a friend i haven't talked to in years, my own family or even hanging out with co workers after work is over.

It usually ends in her crying or saying I don't love her, and me being forced to cut short any form of social contact before it even really started.

I've tried to explain to her multiple times that I need contact to friends and family just to stay sane, wether this is playing a video game with someone else, or doing an oil change with my dad, or having a beer after work.

I put her first in every single scenario, but at the same time I don't want to lose my friends. Is there a way for me to balance this out ? Because on one hand it feels like this is something my SO has to cope with and work on, but is this even possible without my input ?