The flight is expensive but my family is covering expenses. My partner doesn't want me to go because me missing 2 days from work would set us back. She is not currently working. My great grandmother is across the country and my whole family is going to be with my grandma during this time. My partner is a nurse and has seen a lot of death. She says it's only sad when they are young and I should be happy my great grandma lived a long life and had family take care of her. That it is beautiful. I understand what she is saying and completely get it but ... feels incomparable. Anyways we just moved to a new area and I told her to take a break and Id handle the bills. I bartend so Ive been doing that the past couple of weeks but would miss 2 shifts for this "excursion" as she calls it. Am I the asshole for thinking I can be with my family and still make the $1500 rent in 3 weeks?