My best friend Olivia is married to a guy (Jared) that I can't stand. I love her, but idk if I can excuse what happened.

For context I was sexully abused by my step father throughout my childhood, it started very very young, when I learned that my mother knew and never stopped it, I cut her off. It caused a big rift in our family and I basically have no relationship with any of my relatives.

Olivia has always been my only family, we consider ourselves sisters and refer to each other as such. When she got married, despite not liking her choice of husband, he became my "brother in law" and I respected that.

Shortly after Olivia and Jared got married we went out to a bar one night, I don't typically drink, but he was pushing, and she said she'd DD, I didn't want to be a stick in the mud so I drank against my better judgment. Then she had a few shots and shortly after we eneded up leaving for my place.

I was totally plastered. She put me in the shower and her husband kept coming in, and I do think I remember her telling him to leave but then I blacked out and woke up in my bed with only me and him.

He was fingering me, kissing me and saying "I love you so much sister". I immediately stopped it and went to the living room where she was awake and just sitting in the couch. I told her what happened. She was irritable with me for making a big deal out of it and then Jared came out to the living room, he apologized and said it only happened because he was drunk and begged her not to leave him. She told him, "dont worry. We are not getting divorced".

Am I making too big a deal out of this? The whole thing has my stomach in knots and I don't know if I'm just being too dramatic over nothing.